Is it for real?

A friend recently shared that he had a “drink date” with  his chat friend over “skype” last weekend.  Both did not talk much – music was on at both their respective homes; just that they were refilling their drinks together. His statement made me feel sad and elated at the same time.

Sad because I felt that was a lonely way to socialize. It is always nicer to share a drink/dinner with a person in the same room as against online. Why elated then? Hmm…many of us sometimes may be surrounded by lot of people we know – family/ friends/ office colleagues etc. But sometimes there is something missing…maybe a connect, which you find with somebody miles away. Why to be bogged down then by geographical differences when we have the advantage of telecommunication.

Call me a traditionalist, but I still like to meet people personally then chat with them over the phone/net/skype. A ” 🙂 ” over the net cannot compare to a real smile and texting ” X0X ”  (hugs and kisses) can no ways compare to the real thing!

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Posted by on May 5, 2011 in Random


Is Less the New More?

“The Art of choosing” by Sheena Iyengar has a chapter dedicated to a study she conducted where it was observed that although extensive choice seems appealing, research shows that it may hinder motivation to buy and decrease subsequent satisfaction with purchased goods. She conducted a study where in a departmental store; she kept a tasting booth of jams. Every few hours she switched between offering a large assortment of jams (24 flavors of jams) and a small one (6 flavors of jams). It was found that 60% were drawn to the large assortment and only 40% to the small one – yet only 3% actually bought a jar from the large assortment and 30% bought a jar from the small one. Post the Jam study, she also conducted experiments on the assortment size. These studies, many of which were designed to replicate real world choosing contexts, have found fairly consistently that when people are given a moderate number of options (4 to 6) rather than a large number (20 to 30), they are more likely to have a choice, are more confident in their decisions and are happier with what they choose.

 It is important to have a choice – just imagine, you need to buy a shirt and you go to a shop where there is only one option (quite possible for people on the heavier side like me :- () You come back disappointed (you will buy only if you are in urgent need of one – I have actually done that once when I had to go for the fourth interview in an organization and had exhausted all my shirt options which could go well with the blazer, I had no option, but to buy the single shirt available in my size). But how much is too much? George Miller, a cognitive psychologist has published that the number of objects an average human can hold in his working memory is 7 ± 2. Anything more, it is difficult to process informaiton.

What is your take? How many options would you like? Would it differ? For example, I would like to have more options (definitely more then 7 ± 2) for clothes or books or movies but fewer for financial services (It is difficult to understand one product – how do I find the inclination or drive to understand 20??). Have there been cases where you needed to buy something and got rattled because of the number of options and eventually returned empty handed? Do write in….will love to know your point of views….

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Posted by on April 18, 2011 in Books


The Last Lecture (Randy Pausch and Jeffrey Zaslow)

“We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand.”

A lot of professors are asked to consider their demise and to ruminate on what matters most to them and give talks titled “The Last Lecture.” What wisdom would they want to impart to the world if they knew it was their last chance? When Randy Pausch, a computer science professor at Carnegie Mellon, was asked to give such a lecture, he didn’t have to imagine it as his last, since he had recently been diagnosed with terminal cancer. But the lecture he gave on “Really Achieving Your Childhood Dreams”- wasn’t about dying. It was about the importance of overcoming obstacles, of enabling the dreams of others and of seizing every moment. It was a summation of everything Randy had come to believe. It was about living.

Though the lecture was initially meant for his kids, others found value in it and millions watched the lecture online. Since Randy did not want to take time off from being with his family with the  limited time he had, Jeffrey Zaslow – a Wall Street Journal columnist who had attended his last lecture, wrote the story (with Randy’s inputs) that helped fuel worldwide interest in it and later on, became a best-seller. The book is an expanded version of the inspiring lecture which can all be read in a sitting. Alternatively, one can read 2/3 chapters, reflect on them and then move ahead. 

Given his shortened life span at the time of publication, the book felt a little rushed. There are some chapters that are little more than a couple of paragraphs with a random anecdote that doesn’t really have anything to do with anything. Some chapters have the style of a blog entry, the book is not actually a piece of literature; it has bits and pieces of generic advice on how to live a fulfilling life (although still true, and still somewhat helpful to put it back on top of the radar). Everyone is likely to take something different from this book. Even if you’re not normally drawn to self-improvement books or memoirs, try this one. Besides being an easy read, it will give you a lot to think about on what your life’s priorities are and what you might say to the people you love if you had to leave them behind.

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Posted by on March 29, 2011 in Books


Your choice or theirs?

  “Marriage inspired by love brings two people together  under the influence of the most violent, most insane, most delusive and most transient of passions. They are required to swear that they will remain in that excited, abnormal and exhausting condition continuously until death do them part”

–          George Bernard Shaw

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Posted by on March 28, 2011 in Quotes, Uncategorized


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Posted by on March 28, 2011 in Uncategorized